I modified my defensive tactic according to some things in your post, and it works a treat. The first few times I used it I conceded immediately, but it seems my players are used to it now. With a big target man (Caracciolo) and some excellent set piece takers, my Palermo team actually scores a decent amount too. I only use this to defend a lead, or when playing Inter/Juve/Roma away sometimes, but it's a useful tool to have.
And who cares if your opponent controls play? He doesn't create any chances. If you play your games with "Key" highlights the only things you'll see from the opposition are deep crosses and the odd long shot really.