Ok - here's the latest list, I've included tips i've read on other threads. Please add or comment to any of this.
Against 4-1-4-1:Use Man Marking
Defend deep because of pacey strikers:Go six nothces into deep for defensive line
Defense vunerable to pace:Use strikers with quick pace and acceleration
Defensive 4-4-2 Formation

lay 15 team mentality
Direct passing and quick tempo:Match them if better team, or go Short passing and slow tempo
If you choose to play defensive: Counter attack switched on
In Bad Weather conditions

on’t play short passing / too wide
Intelligent midfielder:Closed down always, forced onto weaker foot
Like to get the ball down and play it:Closing down to 4, direct passing, quick tempo
Looks like your going to get slautered

lay attacking football first ten mins to try and get an early goal
Opposition play counter attack

lay attacking football, use short passing and slow pace
Play a basic 4-4-2

lay your own game
Play drop into deep spaceTight mark always, close down
Potential Threat:Man Mark Player
Prevent strikers getting ball to feet:Hard tackle and tight mark strikers
Strong and organised defense:Go three notches into attacking, tempo and direct passing
The midfield work hard for eachother:Closing down to 4, use direct passing
In Game
Come at you more attacking then expected

rop to go more defensive, play counter attack
Counter Attack not working:Go more defensive, last notch
Go 1-0 UpGo to defensive, and play counter attack, go narrow if wide
Go 2-0 DownNotch three up into attacking, tempo, direct passing, switch counter off
Player Sent OffStriker off to fix shape
Space in behind full backs:Use barrows
Weather changes to wet

lay direct and quicken tempo