Doesn't happen to me or a bunch of other people which would suggest tactically you are doing something wrong.
Football is also full of controversial incidents too. In-game, I cant say theres been a number that would constitute a problem...or bug. But maybe have a look in the bug forum to see if anyone has noted anything similar. If there is a
prob, SI could tone it down.
As for winning 4-0 and then drawing 4-4, this will be down to your tactics and preparation and team selection. Especially if it happens all the time.