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My partner has two kids, we are looking at starting up a life together, she is fantastic with her kids she really is.
Her ex has lied, cheated and made a fool out of her and turned her parents against her by telling lies about me.
Now they are saying I am a paedophile because I am 25, my partner is 34 and because I love her and want to be with her I must be a paedophile cos she has kids and now they (the ex and her parents) will go for custody of the kids, using this as a background.
Just a little advice on what I can do in terms of slander?
Forget slander, it's childish name calling and why are they going for custody ? Just cause your girl is with you now ? I dont think any court would take a kid from it's mother just cause she got a new boyfriend. As long as you're (both) taking care of these kids and they're not starving or getting beaten.
To answer your question about slander, in Ireland at least (and I'd imagine it's a similar position in England but you should check it out) you need to prove:
1. A statement to a third party
2. Of a false and defamatory statement
3. That is referable to the plaintiff
4. The statement damages your reputation.
As you are being accused of something which could see you ostracised, there is no need to prove special damage.
Obviously that is not legal advice, and i don't think slander is the most pressing issue here.
Originally posted by Razzler:
Forget slander, it's childish name calling and why are they going for custody ? Just cause your girl is with you now ? I dont think any court would take a kid from it's mother just cause she got a new boyfriend. As long as you're (both) taking care of these kids and they're not starving or getting beaten.
Have i missed something ?
exactly, we're not living together yet though - but thats exactly my thoughts on that matter, the problem is I think they are telling everybody they know (as far as I know) that I am trouble/a paedophile.
Originally posted by Muller:
To answer your question about slander, in Ireland at least (and I'd imagine it's a similar position in England but you should check it out) you need to prove:
1. A statement to a third party
2. Of a false and defamatory statement
3. That is referable to the plaintiff
4. The statement damages your reputation.
As you are being accused of something which could see you ostracised, there is no need to prove special damage.
Obviously that is not legal advice, and i don't think slander is the most pressing issue here.
thank you, what do you think is the most pressing issue?
If it's only calling you names then what are you worried about ? He's only gonna be 'he said-she said'.
There is no way that they can use their ridiculous paedophile suspicions to gain custody of your girlfriend's kids and providing she doesnt believe the acusations herself then just ignore them.
To try to gain custody they would have to get legal and then face questions about their suspicions which they would not be able to back up. Non starter.
As for calling you this and that. Just leave it. Ignore them.
Parents are obviously fond of the previous bloke, maybe the daughter should have a sensible word about how she's moved on and to frankly to tell her parents to grow up by the sounds of it
Well if you are serious about starting a life with your partner, then I'd imagine it's the custody dispute over the children. Their name calling isn't likely to be believed by everyone, and may just be seen as them being childish. Again though not knowing your exact circumstances don't take anything said here as fact, just go to a lawyer and sort it out.
Some legal advice needed 
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