Bugsy Malone

Ok here is the situation

This girl I know, love her to bits, care deeply for her, do anything for her, we are probably quite close friends in a sense.

Now she is a nice girl and she is always calling me when she is down, crying, sad feeling lonely etc etc. She is currently breaking up with her BF so she needs support and I’ve been there for her (as you do) which is cool, I don’t mind being the shoulder to cry on.

Recently she has asked me to do some stuff for her - DIY, a lot of DIY which I do as a favour. I don’t really mind cos I like her a lot, so I don’t mind spending time with her.

She has also asked me to take her to see a car that she was thinking of buying so I’ve done that and even missed a couple of footie training, games and matches for her. I am always buying food for her, taking her out to eat and that and of course the long phone calls. She has hinted at me to go aboard with her to sort some stuff out (now I can’t really go cos I’m not in a position to do so, she knows this and some times I get the feeling she still wants me to go with her). I do a lot of things for her and spend a lot of money on her (food, cinema, drinks); she hardly pays for anything when we are out.

I am really confused is she using me?

Or does she like me? Cos we have developed a deep friendship where she tells me a lot of stuff – probably more than she tells her other friends.

Now I do have feelings for her and I am not sure if she likes me back like that or if she just wants to be friends.

Trouble is if I ask her out and she says no I run the risk of losing a close friendship.

What do I do?

Is she using me?

Andy Jordan

using you.

xnellyrx

linkage.

birdy123

Mookie's law.

swfcrule4eva

Sounds to me like she's using you but tbh you may aswell ask her out because she may like you but if she is just using you then at least you'll find out.

Bugsy Malone

What's mookie's law? and no linkage. She's 8/10 lol

atvkwkad

she's ****ing your dad/brother/mum

theboydonegood

Grow some balls and ask her out ffs. If you are truthful with yourself the only reason that you have this 'friendship' with her is because you want to **** her. So if you ask her out and she says no it means you can stop wasting your time.

If you are truly serious about just being friends and you are as close as you make even if you ask her out and she says know a good friendship would recover - yeah it would be weird for a bit but hey thats life.

I say again the only reason you are doing so much for her is because you fancy her, if you knew she was not interested in you there is no way you'd be doing any of the good deeds you listed above, no way on this earth.

DanielM_90

Sounds like she may be using you tbh.

But as SWFC said if you want to know the answer to your questions then go ahead and ask her out.

Bugsy Malone

Another thing I forgot to say is she buys me a lot of presents (about 6) and her friends about 1 each when she went on holiday.

This make me think she likes me and is the reason why I don't mind taking her out and stuff and doing her favours (kinda like paying her back for the things she has brought me).

But I do find it strange she buys more alot of presents tho.