Is this girl using me? Or does she like me?

retired_Coastie · 10-15-2007, 12:46 PM

In a very similar situation myself, it sucks.

retired_rolal · 10-15-2007, 12:51 PM

oh, it's totally crap. i'm on one too, and the thing is, try and think of the girl going out with some other guy, then work out if you could still be friends with her. chances are not.

retired_ehoff15 · 10-15-2007, 12:54 PM

well you know the answer already.

If you fancied her as a girlfriend sort of way then ask her out. if she rejects then moved on.

i wouldnt worry too much about whether she is using you or not. If you think she is a friend then it shouldnt be a case of who using who. Just make sure you asked her a favour now and again to balance things up :thup:

retired_zachw023 · 10-15-2007, 01:02 PM

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Originally posted by keef:
Do it now I tells ya. during the break up. it might help her make the decision. If she turns you down, then you leave off, she'll go back to the idiot, and he'll keep treating her like crap, and then sh will remember that you were always good to her.

the mistake you're making now is thinking you know how she thinks. if you're there for her all through this break up as the shoulder to cry on and so forth, she'll only see you that way.

Get it out there now!

No I don't think it's wise cos she can't switch feelings like that. She will get confused and have too much to deal with and be forced to choose between me and him. Don't want that.

If I jump in now she can easily say I dont want to consider a relationship as of yet.

But if I give her time to get over things then she will think yeah I do get on with this guy and he does care for me so why not give it a shot.

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Originally posted by cliff7197:
Listen to FS. Every word he's said is correct. Believe me, I've been there. You say you're worried about losing a friend, well if this was one of your male friends you'd be thinking it wasn't much of a friendship. You're hanging on in there because you want to **** her, and that's all well and good. But answer me this: How would you feel if (Or more likely when) she was to break up with her current BF, let you do all this running around, then at some later time hook up with someone else? If you feel you could genuinely take a back seat again and remain good friends, then fair play to you. If you'd feel utterly crushed and annoyed at your wasted time, effort and money then it's time to do something about that before that situation arises.

Best to resolve this now (In any way), before that happens.

I know I do agree with FS and you which is why when the time is right and she has finnished with him then I will do my bit take the risk like I said before I dont have much to lose. Yeah I've lost a friend but never really relied on her for anything.

Dont think I can see her with another BF who treats her like **** again and go through the whole crying and upseting phones calls again.

retired_little.splash · 10-15-2007, 01:10 PM

you're just the shoulder to cry on
nothing more

retired_DonWon · 10-15-2007, 01:11 PM

If she is laying all the emotional upset and stuff around her bf at your feet, you can pretty much guarantee she isnt remotely romantically interested in you, otherwise she wouldnt be doing so.

retired_zachw023 · 10-15-2007, 01:28 PM

[quote]Originally posted by It's pronounced 'Owen':

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Have you any idea how long you're prepared to wait?

Maybe about a month. She tells me she dont think there is anything there anymore with him, but when he textes her and say ring me. She rings him and she be like, yeah so I spoke to him and I keep telling him the same thing "I want my stuff back" which he refuses to give to her. But sometimes she will be like "yeah he texted me and he said this and that then maybe there is something there and maybe he is moving in the right direction." Which is a load of cow ***** really cos that guy is just basically messing her around cos next week later she will come crying to me about something thats happen and say "Ive enough of these games" then he will sweet talk her and she'll be confused again.

Im suppose I am prepared to wait since I do like her alot.

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Originally posted by Father Senegal:
If she is laying all the emotional upset and stuff around her bf at your feet, you can pretty much guarantee she isnt remotely romantically interested in you, otherwise she wouldnt be doing so.

I know sometimes its about that guy sometimes it's everyday stuff, uni stuff, family stuff, life in general. But its a risk I'll take least I know where I stand. But then again if she doesnt like me like that then she is using me and playing me for a fool.

dejasade · 10-15-2007, 02:23 PM

ask her what the deal is. she may think your gay and likes you as a gay friend. it's not her fault if that's the vibe you've been giving off

retired_g_stull · 10-15-2007, 02:32 PM

Just try it on with her one night. Don't make a big deal, and if she's pushes you away - there is your answer.

Don't waste another minute thinking about it until you have tried it.

lessen · 10-15-2007, 02:37 PM

if you're buying her all this stuff when you arent even going out with her, what will she expect if you do get together?

Best just to sod her off and save your money :thup:

Is this girl using me? Or does she like me?

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Is this girl using me? Or does she like me?