retired_rolal

mate, there are only two things that you can do here.

1: forget about her and walk away. You're never going todo this, but it is one of only two ways)

2:lay it all on the line. let here know in no uncertain terms what is going on. word it however you like. 'I wanna **** your brains out' 'I want you to suck on my willie' or more seriously, just tell her. I like you, a lot, and I want us to be together, all that kinda stuff, just let it all out.

She'll say something like: 'i've got a BF' (she doesn't like)
'but we're friends and if something happens we'll lose that' (a risk you're willing to take)

'i've been hurt too many times, i can't trust anyone' (you've never hurt her)

or the deal breaker . ' i don't have those feelings for you'

in which case she'll decide if you can still be friends, which is the point where you walk away. if she has to make that decision, you know it wasn't really what you wanted anyways.

trust me, this is still all VERY fresh for me. 2 weeks old, same situation. Except, i'm most likely older than you and should know better.

retired_dots7337

What you need to do is back off and start going out with other mates. If she does like you she'll make it pretty obvious when she realises that you might find someone else. At the minute you are too close to be able to read the signs.

retired_princess160

And she just doesn't know what she feels until she's tried it out in a non-committing way out of which she can back off without rejecting you straight-out.

retired_ks reddy

Appeal to her natural curiosity by boasting about how big your **** is.

retired_princess160

My, what subtleness. Out of you, I'd have expected 'a good rogering. It's was the way we broke in new recruits to let them know who's daddy, should be good enough for her, too'

SBP in Mild Monday Morning Mood shocker

retired_zachw023

I like this, is how my mate said it to me as well.

I think I'm just going to tackle it with the mind frame of "I don't have anything to lose" because I don't rely on her for anything, I don't talk to her about my problems I don't hang with her as a mate thing. If anything she relies on me for support (Well I think she does but with girls they have a few people they rely on anyways like girl friends). She asks me to do things, she calls me out, she wants me to do favours and such. So really if I threw the ball in and don't get it back then I wont really miss anything. Yeah sure I've lost a friend but I have other mates and friends too. I don't rely on her for much so I guess there is nothing to lose to be honest.

I did in a way had this girl that I told her about and she does asks me questions about her. But that doesn't mean anything really just a passing comment on who that girl is. If I make it that Im out looking for someone then she may think "oh he doesnt like me thats why he is out all night" kind of thing. So I don't want to risk that.

But all in all I'm not going to do it yet cos of the current BF thing. Will have to wait for that to end and give her time to give over things.

But I do appreciate you guys input. I'm probably am being played and being used thats why I don't have anything to really lose in this.

retired_rolal

do this. and do it ASAP so you can get on with your life, either with her or not. it's hard, but you've just got to be tougher on yourself.

I never listen to it myself, but as they say, 'there's always more fish in the sea'. that sounds like a load of bollox now, but try thinking that way. Good Luck.

Oh, and if she goes for it, make sure you've emptied the clip before the first time you guys go at it. you don't want to EFF that part up

retired_zachw023

Im not going to do it ASAP cos shes breaking up with her BF now so I will need to wait. I guess me being there for her will show that I care.

But yeah might as well fire at will and see if I hit her.

retired_rolal

Do it now I tells ya. during the break up. it might help her make the decision. If she turns you down, then you leave off, she'll go back to the idiot, and he'll keep treating her like crap, and then sh will remember that you were always good to her.

the mistake you're making now is thinking you know how she thinks. if you're there for her all through this break up as the shoulder to cry on and so forth, she'll only see you that way.

Get it out there now!

alidog

I'm worried cos it's a decent friendship we have going on and I know if I talk to her about these feelings I have for her and she rejects me it will be all awakard between us, probably won't be as strong or close as a friend.

I know for a fact that if I say something like your using me she will say no Im not I've brought you presents in return and her mum has cooked for me a few times so she will throw that it and say she did that. </BLOCKQUOTE>

Listen to FS. Every word he's said is correct. Believe me, I've been there. You say you're worried about losing a friend, well if this was one of your male friends you'd be thinking it wasn't much of a friendship. You're hanging on in there because you want to **** her, and that's all well and good. But answer me this: How would you feel if (Or more likely when) she was to break up with her current BF, let you do all this running around, then at some later time hook up with someone else? If you feel you could genuinely take a back seat again and remain good friends, then fair play to you. If you'd feel utterly crushed and annoyed at your wasted time, effort and money then it's time to do something about that before that situation arises.

Best to resolve this now (In any way), before that happens.