retired_princess160

What's this 'ask her out' stuff about? You already meet all the time. You don't need to say, aforehand, 'we're meeting today but today is different than other days because today I'm going to try and snog you'.

After another phone session, DIY session or whatever session, ask if she feels like going out for some dancing (/boozing/headbanging, whatever you think she likes, you should know by now) and follow your instincts.

Don't make a big 'I love you' announcement, whatever you do! Simply get more intimate with her than usual. Little touching of the hand and at an opportune moment, a kiss. If you haven't committed to anything at that point, she can very easily say 'nah, let's just stay friends, eh' and the friendship is just like it is before.

Girls, certainly right after breaking up, need to go out fishing for men again, try some on for size (which means they check 'em out, they don't necessarily get intimate with them). Once that's done, they'll decide which bloke is next. Even if they fancied that bloke all along.

How do I know this stuff?

I know for 99% certain that you're not going to, but I'll say it on the off chance that for once someone will do themselves the biggest favour of their live and listen: read Dr. John Gray. He has written the manual to women.

retired_ishmael

A guy and girl cannot be close friends without someone fancing someone. Just go for it she is single now so its your chance. Most women will happily use guys that like them maybe not always in a cruel or deliberate way.

retired_zachw023

I agree with this that a guy and girl cannot be close friends without someone fancing someone. I know I like her alot. I just don't know if she does me. She is in a middle of breaking up with somone so Im not going to ask straight away. Probably leave it and then talk to her about this relationship we have going on. Sometimes I get the feeling that she still likes that guy and she is not wanting to let go.

I dunno cos it weird, one min she wants to let go then the next the other guy says something to her and she says "Since he did this or said that then its kinda heading towards the right direction I'm just hanging on to that and see what happens."

Then she gets dicked around by that guy againa and she comes crying to me.

****'s getting me messed up in the head.

retired_amadhani

No they can but the male always thinks if she is remotely attractive, that there is a little chance that she likes him. When all the woman sees it as being friendly.

shes using you btw. Don't buy her any more stuff, just nob her off. shes playing you like a small child on a recorder at like grade 7

retired_StayLove

Me and my girlfriend were close mates, now we're bf and gf but like someone else said someone always fancies the other and in our case it was her fancying me, she was one to make move as she had a bf

Anyhow I say just go for it. Doesn't sound much of a friendship at the moment more of a feel good teddy to her be you, get some nuts ask her out and if worst comes to worst least you know and can move on....

Good luck...

retired_layne129

whs :thdn:

retired_Frappin'

It depends if you mean fancying someone as
- thinking they're good looking
or
- wanting to have more with them.

retired_heidigoebel

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retired_zachw023

If I stop buying her things then she will know whats up and ask why. If I say you are using me then she will say she is not and give examples of things she has done for me IE buying me presents.