retired_heather

there's no easy way to do this, surely? you can go on breaks, take some off from eachother, see other people and give eachother some room, but in the end it's better to just use strong words - albeit in a good conversation.

the reason I ask? I've been in a relationship for over a year now, and it's not working anymore, for me at least. I feel she's still madly in love with me, and we've said from the start we'd be honest whenever the feeling's gone a bit missing. that time has come, yet I'm a coward. don't take this as narcism, but I'm scared she'll be devastated. I'm her first big relationship, and I think she's still confident of us going quite some distance.

it's just best to do it now, before the end of year cycle hits full speed - papers, exams, lots and lots of work, right? christ, I'm bad at this.

retired_heidus17

i thought this had been posted by mookie for a second

retired_Fit

ignore her, she'll go away, they're like puppies

retired_assy22

There is no good way, and the situation you depict is scarily similar to my latest. Just cast off any pretense at remaining friends and hope she gets over it.

retired_Fit

same here, always mis-read moonie. in which case, linkage

retired_kaila4337

Wait til Christmas day, then break up with her in front of all her family and friends

retired_lynlee2008

Pack all my stuff up when she's at work and leave a dump on her pillow. They usually get the idea.

Ventil

Have a run at her Best Mate/ Sister/ Mum*

*delete where applicable.

retired_Fit

if you dont live together then start by putting a little time/distance between you. See how she reacts to that, if she picks up on anything.

retired_jabda

The following statement, preferably texted:

'Welcome to Dumpsville, Population - YOU'